a discussion on the realities of being a woman who dates men and the misuse of the term, "manic pixie dream girl" (i also just made this to piss off men for no reason).
Heterosexual men always complain "Women are so complicated to understand" because they just don't want to listen. They want a femme fatale, a myterious erotic muse that is hard to get, they want to play cat and mouse in an endless hunt. When I understood that, I felt like I had no other choice than play the game because it was the only way to have power in the relationship. I was hinding my needs and interest and they were attracted like flies arround a light. But it always led me to boredom and I left them all, it doesnt create a great romantic story, just their version of love that is a disgusting mix of cliches and disney. It is impossible to fall in love like that.
ANDIIIII THIS IS AMAZING😭😭😭 i recently had to deal with a guy who idealized me way too much to the point he ROMANTICIZED MY REJECTION.. and ive also been in relationships where the other party relied on me to "save them" and it is NOTTT pretty. I FEEL SO SEEN!! This topic makes me seethe with rage and i love love love everything you wrote here!!!
I have always related to these characters and, in turn, have been labeled as wanting to be an MPDG, which, when I was younger, made me internalize some form of shame that others were throwing on me. I tried not to be 'too quirky' or 'too vocal' about my thoughts and interests just to avoid being seen as pretentious. It’s weird that a term created to criticize lazy, one-dimensional writing has been used against characters that are actually complex. Even worse, it’s used against actual people. Zooey Deschanel is often regarded as the MPDG archetype—not just her characters, but also her as a person. It’s a shame. I don’t think this ever happens to men, which makes me think that, as a society, we somehow turn everything against women (e.g. 'Karen,' 'I'm just a girl,' etc.). Anyway, I totally enjoyed this piece!
Heterosexual men always complain "Women are so complicated to understand" because they just don't want to listen. They want a femme fatale, a myterious erotic muse that is hard to get, they want to play cat and mouse in an endless hunt. When I understood that, I felt like I had no other choice than play the game because it was the only way to have power in the relationship. I was hinding my needs and interest and they were attracted like flies arround a light. But it always led me to boredom and I left them all, it doesnt create a great romantic story, just their version of love that is a disgusting mix of cliches and disney. It is impossible to fall in love like that.
right! i have no idea how can they have the guts to fall in love like that.
This is an incredible piece I think it may be one of my favourites on this platform
thank you, rylee 😩🤍. i’m very very flattered!
That last line is on-point and chilling. As a fellow quirky girl, I approve this message!
wow, thank you for giving this piece a read!
Of course!
i love this! and just out of interest do you do the art urself on ur posts?
hi! yes, i do the cover art for the posts themselves. thank you for reading! 🤍
beautiful article thank you so much for sharing!! <3
omg, thank you, too! 🤍
A terrific read, Andi! Ahhh I love essays on tropes like these (I've watched so many from The Take). :)
thank you so much! <3
ANDIIIII THIS IS AMAZING😭😭😭 i recently had to deal with a guy who idealized me way too much to the point he ROMANTICIZED MY REJECTION.. and ive also been in relationships where the other party relied on me to "save them" and it is NOTTT pretty. I FEEL SO SEEN!! This topic makes me seethe with rage and i love love love everything you wrote here!!!
aww kayla i’m glad you loved it!! 😭
also what the heck is wrong with men 😭😭
Loved this so much i literally reposted it to instagram
let me follow you on instagram!! 🤍
OMG PLEASEE my instagram is ky8008135!! hehehe
I have always related to these characters and, in turn, have been labeled as wanting to be an MPDG, which, when I was younger, made me internalize some form of shame that others were throwing on me. I tried not to be 'too quirky' or 'too vocal' about my thoughts and interests just to avoid being seen as pretentious. It’s weird that a term created to criticize lazy, one-dimensional writing has been used against characters that are actually complex. Even worse, it’s used against actual people. Zooey Deschanel is often regarded as the MPDG archetype—not just her characters, but also her as a person. It’s a shame. I don’t think this ever happens to men, which makes me think that, as a society, we somehow turn everything against women (e.g. 'Karen,' 'I'm just a girl,' etc.). Anyway, I totally enjoyed this piece!
“We somehow turn everything against women”, yep, you are right! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on here! 🤍